Author Guest Post: Jenny Gardiner

Today I would like to welcome author and fellow animal lover Jenny Gardiner to Stiletto Storytime  for a Guest Post. I just finished Jenny’s book Winging It: A Memoir of Caring for a Vengeful Parrot Who’s Trying to Kill Me and I have to say not only was it hilarious but it was also heart-warming. Although I have to say between Paula Deen’s autobiography It Ain’t All About The Cookin’ and Jenny’s memoir….I am now aware of the fact I will never own a bird due to how much they go #2! (Side note I have a one year old….so let me give you the translation “CRAP”)I mean I am all about animals….but I can only handle so much of that! Jenny’s book had me laughing and about to cry in turns. It also taught a lot about parrots, I had no idea the amount of work it takes to care for one. I’m not sure I could handle it myself. The one year old and the dog…well they’re wearing me out! That’s not even adding in the husband. Without further ado here is a little bit from Jenny about her journey in “parrothood”.

“My parrot wants me dead. She hates me. Proof is the triangular chunk of flesh now missing from both the front and back of my thumb, testament to the dangers of a beak that’s as powerful as an industrial metal-stamping die.

It seems where I’ve met with moderate success in parenthood–i.e. maintaining the upper hand in the relationship–I’ve failed miserably in parrot-hood.

Parrot-hood, you ask? Yes, in my case, that would be the state in which one must sustain a parrot.

Graycie, a too-smart-for-our-own-good African Gray parrot, came to our family from the wild, a Christmas gift from a relative living in Zaire 20 years ago. Graycie arrived on our doorstep–with a temporary stop in parrot prison (quarantine)–in good health but bad temperament. The first few years were arduous, as she was ferocious, snapping and growling at us when we got near. Who could blame her? Poor thing was chopped down from a tree and separated from her parents, stuffed into a crate with a hundred other terrified baby birds, and left to survive with little food or water.

Had I anything to say in the matter, I would have nixed owning a contraband bird from the get-go (back then most parrots ended up in the U.S. this way; shortly thereafter such means of parrot acquisition were banned). Nevertheless, I was determined to make the best of the situation, despite the fact that she arrived on the heels of the birth of our first child. I was having enough trouble dealing with the demands of a small human who needed my attention all day and night, so was ill-prepared to welcome a bird into the home who expected that and then some.

To some extent, Graycie’s redeemed herself over the years. She’s become quite the talker: she puts my kids in time-outs when they get sassy, yells at the dog when she tries to eat her, and answers the phone in my husband’s voice. Ditto his burps and sneezes. Recently when I used a broom to nudge her back onto the cage from the floor, she pecked at my feet and the broom while repeatedly saying, “Hello gray chicken!”

For a while Graycie got somewhat nice. She let us hold her, sometimes even stroke her feathers. Unfortunately she’d scoot up my arm and perch behind my neck, precariously close to that vital jugular vein and far too inclined to poop on my back, so I didn’t make a habit of such visits. Maybe that angered her.

Lately she’s lapsed into a phase of oppositional defiance that has me vexed (and mysteriously at the vortex of her wrath).

My friend is convinced Graycie needs a boyfriend. She is a teenager, after all. I’m convinced she needs anger management therapy. Perhaps, though, she is really a he and is tired of being called a girl (back when we got her, the only way to determine a bird’s gender was surgically, so we just guessed at it).

Whatever it is, I know this: what she wants most is to wound me. Often. When I clear the paper from beneath the cage, she races down to attack me, and gleefully rips my hair out. When I reach to open the perch on top, she’s there before I complete the job, straining as far as her body can reach in order to take a chomp my way. When she sneaks off the cage on her frequent surreptitious walkabouts, she attacks my ankles and feet as I try to catch her and return her to home base. I’m the first to admit I can’t quite control her.

When I glance at her, she just gazes back with a cold, black stare that says, “You know I could snap your finger in half easier than you could break a Lorna Doone in two, beyatch.” And she means it. The old adage about not biting the hand that feeds you must’ve slipped right on past her.

So much for the parental guilt ploys, the “all that I’ve done for you over the years” nonsense. And in her case, all I’ve done over the years for her is plenty. For example: hydro-therapy and beak-fed antibiotics, three times daily for weeks on end, repeated every couple of months for years, due to the bird’s propensity to fall off the perch and bust open her breast bone (hence the name Graycie). Death-defying claw- and flight feather-trimmings (don’t ask).  Bi-weekly cage washings.

Let’s talk about cage washing, which I last did when the temperature hovered well below freezing. This is a chore that under the most pleasant conditions (75 degrees, bluebirds overhead, daffodils in bloom) is not one that I embrace.

In 20-degree weather, water doesn’t come out of a hose readily. Mr. Clean soapsuds tend to cling in bubbly icicles, suspended mockingly from the brass rungs of the cage. Hardened bird excrement, which is supposed to wash away with the hose (and a lot of elbow grease), tends to freeze into little poopsicles on top of its already solidified state. It’s not a pretty sight. On several occasions I performed this task in the Orca-like third trimester of pregnancy in the dead of winter, water barely trickling from the hose yet managing to splash on my face and leaving behind cruel little icicles on my eyelashes.

I try to remind myself that I’m helping a fellow creature in need. But I know that to her, it doesn’t really matter. Because it seems that the only thing that would make Graycie happy is if she finally succeeded in maiming or dismembering me, leaving me to die in a bloodied puddle on the living room floor.

I used to have a sexy Brazilian neighbor named Carolina who made Charo-like catcalls at Graycie while shaking her booty before the bird. Graycie was smitten and allowed Carolina to not just pet, but actually fondle her. She’d scoop her up in her hands, giving kissie-kisses, lip-to-beak, making smoochy noises that churned my stomach. Like some green-eyed parent whose child prefers the babsyitter, I was wistful that Graycie chose Carolina over me, despite all I did for her. If I tried to put my lip to the bird, you’d soon recognize me as the one with no lips.

Now I wonder if Carolina had it right all along: she was simply a hot-blooded female (albeit the wrong species) coming on to a possibly male parrot and appealing to his/her more prurient interests.  Maybe Graycie is a boy after all, and simply hates me for reinforcing misinformation…In which case, anyone know a sexy 20-something parrot looking for love in all the wrong places? If so, you know where to find me. Most likely in the ER, getting stitched up, or in the pharmacy, stocking up on Band-aids and antibacterial ointment. And maybe a little arsenic.” -Jenny Gardiner

As Jenny shows us sometimes your parrot may try to kill you…but you know what you’re a family and you stick it out! That’s the main message Gardiner sends…something I think all too many people forget about our pets. Too often when Fido doesn’t quite fit in or needs medical care…people give up. But not Jenny and her family who along with a vengeful parrot also owned a dog that was allergic to everything!We have one of those in the family as well, a stray my parents picked up in a pound in Alaska…talk about a tough place to be a stray! Max now has a nice forever home.

So  I am proud to say that I come from a family with the same values and that was one of the things that really drew me to Gardiner’s work. My dog Zoe, a westie/cocker mix is now almost nine years old but at the age of 6 months was hit by a van. Not just any van but one of those large vans often used by churches and other organizations. I had come home from class my sophomore year of college and opened the front door, Zoe was so fast he was down the stairs and out the screen door before I could catch him…I chased him across the road three times before he was hit. The woman driving the Church van (yes, indeed an actual Church van) stopped and looked back only because I think she thought she hit me. When she realized it was a dog…the woman drove on while I stood screaming in the road and as Zoe yelped dragging his lower part about with his front paws. (Another side note…To that woman: God knows what you did).  I immediately grabbed a coat I had in the car wrapped Zoe in it and took off…he was in shock and the closest vet I knew of was actually a Cat Clinic…so off we went. They were able to stabilize him there and he stayed overnight. He went on to have a re-constructed pelvis, rods in both legs, metal hip joints…well let’s just say he can’t go through metal detectors. But amazingly not one vital organ damaged. Often consulting and being told he could have a good, healthy life….we said go for it. I  now have a $6,000 dog…Thanks to my parents who knew…Zoe was my family, just as Graycie was to the Gardiners. Now with a child of my own it means the world to see William and his “big brother” sharing every step….and always waiting for Daddy at the front door.



Filed under Adult Books, New Books, Non-Fiction

7 responses to “Author Guest Post: Jenny Gardiner

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  2. awwww, that made me so happy to read about Zoe–can you imagine driving off? Thanks so much for reading Winging It–I’m so glad you enjoyed it!

  3. I can’t wait to read Winging It! I love the story of Zoe and the picture of your two babies!

  4. This sounds like such a fun book! I know how much work pets can be, especially birds. I’ll stick to dogs and cats but I love visiting my friends parrot. I just have to remember not to wear anything shinny when I visit. LOL!

    • stilettostorytime

      Teddy, anyone who visits your site can be in no doubt of how much you love your of the things that made me like you immediately!

  5. thanks for stopping by–hope you guys enjoy it!

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